Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Women Failing Today's Society and Family Role as a Mother, & Wife.

In this day age and era, there is a problem that needs to be talked about and not seen as taboo or cringe from discussing it.

There, is a growing problem in the past 20 years of Women who have created a single family society .

The Fathers ,Husbands, Boyfriends, and Children are suffering, because of it, the affects of it is astronomically negative and is destroying American Families.

It promotes Divorce Vs. Marriage, which is irresponsible, it creates animosity towards the male, and blames them then denies them to have their parental rights and a relationship with their children, and the children to have one with their biological father/parent.

The cause is simple, and it targets poor, and middle class and younger parents , not to mention minorities who are faced with an child on the way.

It is well known amongst the young girls and women to coach the younger ones on what to do, and how much easier it is to have a child and deny the father to be , any rights from the start or after the birth immediately.

The girl or woman automatically receives all financial benefits , even if she cannot afford the birthing costs or the child support costs.

The Custodial Parent is automatically given and named the Girl/woman .

The Father named , is the non custodial parent, and has all his rights to be exercised to visit the child, or decide if it lives or life is terminated or adopted out, solely by the mother.

Even though some of those rights are there, to get the Courts to allow or enforce these visitation rights is like pulling a tooth.
and Women will be forced to choose the benefits over the father given any chance to marry or take care of the child or the costs during any nurturing stages or first two-three years of the childs life.

Which is a benefit to the mother, many of them will deny the father rights to see the child and play games with making excuses why he cannot see his child, so she can play begging games or make him engage in being nice , while she treats him abusively mentally and emotionally using the child as a tool and a weapon or pimp the child out to get her way and to keep him away, while the mother uses the money to go shopping, and to get housing to throw parties, and to date other guys , in order to not get involved with the father and risk losing her Child support benefits being lost or reduced , due to state agencies finding out and cutting the benefits if the father is living with the mother, the state will not help the mother and the father if they live together and will penalize the mother and child's benefits, if the father lives with the children.

The state gets around this gender discrimination with the word or term custodial and non custodial parent, even though the laws are targeting the majority and penalizing the majority gender, denying the fathers any resources to be involved in the childs lives, and it negatively emotionally affects the Children psychologically, which is abusive, and detrimental to thriving and being secure and having more chances at success than living without a father figure, and being denied both parents in the home growing up which is more nurturing.

there are many negative affects, with education and violence, and with gender issues, that is growing, not to mention the success rates of these kids, and becoming generation welfare mothers are growing at an alarming rate, which feeds jobs within state agencies and bilks the tax payers.

A system long ignored and long over due to be reformed or overhauled.

Two things i suggest for young men to do, as difficult as it may seem and irresponsible as it may sound.
Although, gives the Non custodial parent an advantage to walk away and not have to go through being bullied and have their rights at the mother's sole discretion while being cruel and abusive to the Child to downplay and undermine the closeness and affection of the Child for the father .

1.  It is better to ask the Child support Court , clerk or judge for a motion to Voluntary petition the court the relinquish parental rights to the Child.

Reason, if there is abuse/neglect going on, by the mother on the child, the state will then investigate the mother, among it will prevent any of these mind playing games by the mother upon the child and save many legal battles and expenses that the states are pro women as in all divorce cases.
alot of headaches will be saved, and if the mother is abusing the child or neglecting the child , they wont take it out on the child for being closer to the father , and wont be retaliated on if telling on the mother. Many times the situation never will change even if custody is shared, and the rights of the Father and relationship with the kids gets worse or suffers a slow painful traumatic experience , just not healthy for either kid or father.

2. It will relieve the guy from all financial responsibility of birthing costs, and ongoing child support, for a child his rights are at the sole discretion of the mother to allow the father and the kid to be in a parental/kid and kid/parent relationship.
which might stay the same until the child is fully grown, and if they threaten to leave state get a court order to not leave without written permission of the court and or state and both parents to establish sole custody or adopt out the child.

some of these things may never change, and in that case, one might want to nip this problem in the bud, and move on and have a child with a woman that is responsible and puts the family first or demonstrates this and is not selfish.



The way to fix this is to make the Custodial Parent 50% equally financially responsible for all birthing costs and any ongoing child support benefits received or used.

The Custodial Parent already enjoys the benefits of being a parent to raise the child, and should not be seen as a duty , but as a privilege and a blessing and a gift to enjoy, and that should be shared equally .
as contraceptives is a dual role responsibility, and the girl has the sole right to terminate the child's life and can adopt the child out behind the fathers back without paternal testing done first or without notification to the father.

Even if the Custodial parent has to take care of the child , the Custodial Parent would be deterred to stay on welfare or receive child support completely even if the mothers are not there during the first 2-3 years of the nurturing stages of the child's life, because it is now a trend amongst mothers leaving the child to daycare and mothers, sisters and aunts to work or go to school .

very common,  now the highest divorce rates and single parent rates are affecting those children coming from those relationships are taking their toll on Today's society of the kids with lack of self esteem, security, identity crisis, psychological problems, and emotional problems that are affecting their education, health , and success rates, not to mention their turning to crime and drugs and high unwanted teen pregnancy rates when they grow up.

When will society address these issues , rather than be separatists and racists, and target the have nots, and help society as a whole , and make both genders responsible than give special treatment and discriminate on the other.

That is hypocritical, and is a crutch to manipulate the system and at the tax payers expense while exploiting the children and the fathers rights for selfish reasons other than the Child's best interests, other than the state to bilk tax payers , and create state agency jobs over the welfare of society.

This is proof the era of when women were teaching their daughters they can have a career, and a child and raise kids during the nurturing years can be done without a man....truth be told its nonsense and cannot be done, society and today's era is showing the effects of that type of thinking in the beginning stage of ones life,,, one should not think about trying to get rid of the guy to get back the career, after the child is grown the father can alternate with the mother to help her get her career, to help pay the bills, at least in the beginning stages of birth,,, to many women feeding negative destructive advice to destroy the girls family or woman's chance to work with the father, even if not married as a remedy or non remedy.
neither will remedy a child born , but to deny the parent kid , and kid parent relationship to have a career, is nonsensical and adds more harm than good, the result can only get worse .
just saying. and thought provoking that needs action.


One must decide what is best for their child , to go on suffering and would it be more painful for both as a slow death, to continue to go through this as it usually never ever gets better from the beginning, it usually progresses to a mess and traumatizes the fathers and their kids to remain trying.
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